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Suzie: I know we've been. We've had a busy summer. Too many things to catch up on.

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Suzie: It's like before we even start the podcast. We talk for like about an hour,

three hours about nothing to catch up and then we realize we haven't done any work.

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Suzie: Guys,

thanks so much for joining us today. We have a fun little episode.

We really want your guys opinion on this. Obviously I think it's something that is a newer concept almost that men are admitting to and that is do men do better when they are competing with another man for a woman's attention?

Mel: Thrill of the chase. That's the love of the chase. Yes.

Suzie: And then do women do better when they're competing with other women for a man and doing better as in for the opposite sex?

Mel: Like as in furthering furthering dating to the next level.

Suzie: Exactly. What do you think, Mel?

Mel: Was a very good question.

I mean,

I think men definitely.

I think that if a man. But I do think a man has to be kind of really into you. Right. And then it's like he's gonna up his game if he thinks there's another guy who's,

you know,

given it all his all too.

So I think there is an element of that really that they want to win. They want to win you. I mean, that's the idea, isn't it?

Suzie: I know it's something. The only reason that we're talking about this is. Because this is a very new realization for myself.

I have been talking to quite a few men and just kind of, like, put myself out there,

seeing what's out there. And so I've been talking to men from kind of all over the world, too, right?

So, you know, New York, obviously, here in Toronto.

Like, there's a guy in San Diego. There's a guy in London. Like, I'm really just trying to, like, shoot my shot. Put it all out there.

Mel: Shoot my shot. Very nice.

Suzie: Put it all out there.

See who comes back. And something interesting that I've realized is when I'm talking to these men who I don't see every day,

they'll be like, oh, like, how was your day? Like, how many times did you get hit on today?

Like,

have you been on any dates lately? Like, they are so curious. These men are so curious to know what my dating life is like. But it's not like they're, like,

jealous curious. They are like, this turns them on to, like, step up their game and, like,

want to be,

like, the man that I choose or something. And it's, like, kind of hot. I'm kind of into it.

Mel: I think it also could be,

like,

it validates,

like, their choice for the hot girl is Right. Sort of thing. Because if all these other girl guys. Sorry. Are scrambling for you,

then they've got it right. Yeah, they've got. They've picked the right one. There must be something in that.

Suzie: It's just so interesting because these,

like, the men,

like, they're just. They're. They're like, it. It turns them on. I think that's the most confusing thing where it's like, you're not, like, upset that I'm, like, talking to other guys?

Like, you're not, like, upset that I'm, you know, dating other guys. Like, I know, like, there's nothing really they can do because they're so far away anyways.

Maybe it might be part of it too, right? Like, they're kind of like, you know, but you'd think that they would be like, no, I only want you,

and I only want you want me to. Like, it's.

Mel: Yeah, but it's a game, and I think especially the apps, and we've talked about this many times.

It creates even more of a game.

And I. I do think that. That it's a sort of mind thing, isn't it? Yeah, it becomes a thing.

Suzie: But then when you're having, like, a woman.

Because this happens with women all the time.

Women at times, this Is a big thing for women.

And it's like,

you know,

why do women want to **** other women's husbands?

Mel: It's an excellent, excellent, excellent question.

It's a horrible female trait that women are basically innately jealous of each other.

So whether it's your husband, your house, your car, your jewelry, whatever,

women.

This is the thing about men, and I'm going off a tangent, but it's key to this idea.

Men are.

Are happy to see other men do well, like their friends. Right. They like it. They don't have an issue with it. Like, great, you got a new job. Great, you.

They're actually much better at that. Women are kind of like,

that means she's doing better than me. And there's a lot of that. Right. It's jealousy, right? Yeah. And I think often women compete with other women because they're just like, hang on, why does he like her?

Yeah, I'm better than her.

Like, and they.

It's kind of gross if you think about it.

Suzie: Well, it is gross. And it's all for this, like, hope that we're gonna be the chosen ones.

Mel: Yes.

And it's really,

really weird. I've so many situations, and I think for me, it happens.

Cause I'm in my 50s, my husband's in my 50s, in his 50s. And I was somewhere the other day, and it was like a random thing, and we were in a store, and this woman was, you know,

serving him. What do you call that we're doing?

Suzie: Waitressing. Like you're in a store.

Mel: Yeah.

Suzie: Oh, so, like, she was. Yeah, right.

Mel: Servicing sounds really weird. She was helping. Yes. Helping. Yes.

And I'd say she was in her 30s and she was having a little chat, and I was off to the side and a little.

Little bit of a flirty chat.

Suzie: Got it.

Mel: Yeah. And then he's talking to her, blah, blah, blah.

Suzie: She worked on commission?

Mel: No, I think she was just working on her husband. And they're having a chat, and he's just chatting to her, and she's sort of doing that smiley thing. And then I sort of walked around the corner, and then she went and looked at me.

If I. You know, whatever could kill. And it's a.

Suzie: Maybe it's because she had small ******* and you had the big ******* smell.

Mel: Could be a *** thing. She's never gonna win, let's be frank. But it's. No, it's that female thing of your, like,

oh, her.

Like, how is she?

I'm better than her. I'm younger than her. I'm blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And you're like, yeah, whatever.

But I mean, I think women are. Women are awful at it. And it goes back to. Also this thing we've talked about before about cheating is that women cheat with intent.

Suzie: Yes.

Mel: They like planet. They think about it. It's kind of. Yeah. It's not good.

Suzie: Yeah. Women cheat to manipulate.

Mel: Yeah. Well, they've thought about it.

Suzie: They've thought about it.

Mel: It's not just, like, often get into situations of stupidity where they cheat, like they're drunk,

they're unhappy,

whatever's happened. Right.

Women, probably less so. Women, it's a lot more planned. They've thought about this.

Let's be frank.

Suzie: No, they have.

Mel: And I know we have said this in a previous part and people disagree with me, but I'm. I just. It's.

Suzie: We don't care anymore.

Mel: We don't care.

Suzie: It's.

Mel: The truth is, women do think about it.

Even the way they date, you know, and they go on apps that, you know, men will go, swipe, swipe, swipe, swipe, swipe, swipe, swipe. And women go analyze every nano part of this profile, which is ridiculous if you think about it.

Suzie: It's ridiculous.

Mel: It's just the way women think.

So in terms of dating, I think for women and women,

we're bitchy. Right. So we want to win.

We're like, you can't have that ******* man. He's my man.

And. And, yeah, I think.

Suzie: But then I want your man.

Mel: Yeah.

Suzie: And then you can have. You can swap men.

Mel: Yeah. Women will literally clamber over you to get.

Suzie: Yeah, they will. I mean, it's insane to watch.

Mel: Yeah. And I think the. And we've talked about this before. The older. Sorry, the older women get. And I'm. I'm not talking about older women dating. I'm talking about the older you're getting in that striving to get your first husband.

You know, they will get to a point where they get desperate and they'll just step on you. And I mean, you know, they'll crush you. Right. And men aren't like that.

They'll just go for the woman. Yeah. But women will step on other women. So when we talk about this womanhood and female. I'm like, off. It's not true.

Suzie: I know. It's a weird thing. Like, if you're in. I know you don't go to the bars very much anymore. Mel.

Mel: But not only with you.

Suzie: Yeah, exactly. We have some fun. We have some fun.

Mel: Hangover the next Day. But yeah.

Suzie: So when you go into the bars and you see like men,

men groups and then women groups. Right. And you'll see there's only a few hot men.

I don't know, maybe this is different in other cities, but in a place like Toronto, I find that there's a lot of beautiful women.

Mel: Yeah.

Suzie: And big cities.

Mel: There are most big cities.

Suzie: And the men, though, you know, there's, there's more variety. Does that make more sense? Like there's only a few really hot guys in the bar.

Mel: I, I think, to be honest, that's the world over. Because the other thing about women is women can make themselves look a lot better. Men, there's not much you can do.

You can put a nice shirt on.

Suzie: Yes.

Mel: You can cut your hair.

Suzie: Yeah.

Mel: I mean, you could, you know, you can't contact all this stuff, right?

Suzie: No, so that's a good point.

Mel: Women can do a lot, a lot to themselves to make themselves look good.

Suzie: And. But so this is what I'm saying. It's like when you're in the bar or wherever you are and, and there's a bunch of hot women and then there's only a few hot guys.

You'll see the women with the hot guys like trying to get their attention.

Literally the amount of women who will zone into the few amount of hot boys and will literally just like do weird **** for their attention and like hope to be the one to be picked.

And it's like scary to watch almost. You're like, ladies,

get some ******* self respect.

Like, I'm sure he's hot. I'm sure he's not that great in bed because usually good looking men are not great in bed. It's usually the ones who have to try a little harder.

But it is funny to watch.

Mel: I'm gonna love you.

Suzie: I know.

But no, it's, it's funny to watch. Like, it's like, ladies, if.

Why are we all competing for the same 10 men? Like, we don't have to do that.

Mel: You can, it's unbelievable.

Suzie: And, and the men who kind of like, you know those sharks where they.

Mel: Have like, Were you. Where they.

Suzie: So they have the sharks and then they have like the fish that are attached to them.

Mel: Yes.

Suzie: So imagine the shark is the hot guy in the bar.

Mel: Yeah.

Suzie: The group of his friends. Maybe there's another hot guy or two other hot guys in that. But there's like little kind of like fish that are kind of attached to them.

And these guys can be funny. They can also be like hot and cute in Their own little way. But they're not like,

say the six, three, like Jack guy that,

you know, typical hot, whatever.

And you'll see like the women who don't get the hot guy or the hot guy's talking to another hotter girl or whatever it is. And the cute guy, let's like, let's say the 5, 8 guy will like be like, well, it's my turn now and I'm just gonna pick up the right.

Men are so.

Yeah, I know, it's so bad, but it's true. I literally have like watched this with my own eyes. Like, this is what happens. Like, men literally don't care about what kind of they're gonna get.

They're just gonna get the piece of the game,

right? Yeah,

but no, I mean like that's, that's just regular. I.

I was also talking to one of my guy friends and I was like, I really just like want to know how men's brains work. And so I was talking to him and I was like.

I was like. Cuz women talk about everything,

right?

I tell you, if I've had a date, Mel.

I tell you everything.

If I've had sex with this man, it's even more right like you. I'll show you all his **** pics. I'll tell you exactly what we did. I'll tell you exactly the wrong things he did.

The right things you did.

Mel: I've heard a lot.

Suzie: You've heard a lot, okay. And especially me because I'm an oversharer about these things, but I digress.

So.

And I was like. And so I asked my guy friend, I was like, do you talk like, how do you talk about your, like, about the girls that you're seeing to your,

to your guy friends? Like, do you talk about girls? Because girls say everything about their, to other girls, about the guys. Do you say that to your guy friends? Like, do you go into detail about your sex life and you're like, oh, her.

Percy was so tight. Like, do you say that kind of stuff? And he's like, no, I would never. I don't say that stuff. I was like, oh, that's so interesting.

You think you'd want to brag about like her amazing body, her ****, her *****, like, whatever.

And he was like, he was like, no, I, I wouldn't. Because you don't want your guy friends,

your ******* your girlfriend and you have some self respect.

And I was like, But I was like, oh my God. Girls, I don't think,

like actual girlfriends.

Like, if I'm going to Tell you about my boyfriend who has the biggest ****. He's super hot. Whatever.

I would never think that you would go and **** him because he has a huge ****.

Mel: Definitely wouldn't.

Suzie: Obviously not you. But, like, I don't think any of my girlfriends would do that. But to think that, like, a guy is sharing that kind of information with another guy, his guy friend, and the guy and he's, like, worried now this guy friend is gonna go try to his girl.

Mel: I was like, really?

Suzie: I was like, really? Does that really happen?

Mel: Huh? You're gonna have to. Yeah, we're gonna have to. This is gonna have to be a poll.

Suzie: This is what this guy said. This is what he said.

Mel: Interesting.

Suzie: And I've asked other men since then.

Mel: Yeah, yeah.

Suzie: And he and other men are like, no, we don't talk. We don't talk about sex. Sexual details with our guy friends. We don't do that.

Mel: Maybe men talk about sex more generically, or they're like, oh, yeah, I want to do this. Yeah, maybe. Whereas women, we also overanalyze.

Suzie: I know we do.

Mel: I don't know why I'm whispering, but we over analyze every nano element of what somebody does, specifically men,

and men don't work like that. So they're like,

what are you analyzing?

You know, like,

we have too many questions and too many. We look into it too much.

Suzie: Yeah, I guess that's true. I mean, if I was the best sex that a guy has ever had, I'd want him to brag to his friends about that.

Mel: Yeah.

Suzie: You know, like, if I was the tightest that this guy has ever had or the best **** he's ever seen,

I want him to brag to his friends about that.

Do you know what I mean? But maybe that's just because, like, that's like my.

Yeah, what is that?

Mel: That you're Susie. Is that what you mean?

Suzie: Like, I'm like my. It helps my. Like not my self consciousness. My self esteem. It helps my self esteem.

Mel: Yeah. I think I do think there's probably an element here of a generational thing as well. Right. Because. So your friends are mostly millennials.

Suzie: Yeah, for sure.

Mel: And I think there is an element of. Of generically sharing more stuff,

whether you're male or female. Right.

Do Gen X's do that so much?

I will forget boomers, but like, Gen X's probably not as much,

I. I think. Well, also, we're all married. A lot of us are married or divorced or whatever.

So do we talk about it as much? Probably not,

to be honest. The Biggest discussion is the people who. Which is the majority who are not having sex.

And they. They're shocked. Right. When you're like, you're still having sex. You're like, I am married to a man. What would I be doing? Yes.

It's like, I've had this question myself many times. It's like, yes, obviously I sleep with my husband to be slightly concerning if I wasn't. But, you know, that's. That's one of the con.

The conversations.

How much do we analyze? Well, I think that's the point. We're not necessarily all dating or seeing people, so there's nothing. What are we going to talk about? But it evens.

Suzie: You know, it's like, oh, so men are competitive, but they don't want to brag about their wins in the sexual way.

Mel: Or maybe in a generic way, but not a specific way.

Suzie: Yeah, it's really interesting. I'm like, but you guys want to compete with each other. You want to be, like, the best,

but then you don't want to kind of get like you're afraid because you don't want to give up your prize.

Prize, as in the woman?

Mel: Yeah.

Suzie: It's like, horrible, but, like, your prize.

Mel: Yeah.

Suzie: As like you don't want to tell her. Tell them how good the prizes.

Mel: Yeah.

Suzie: You know what I mean?

Mel: Yes.

Yes. And maybe also I don't think men. And somebody's gonna correct me because, I don't know. I'm just thinking out loud. Do they?

They. They don't want to share their intimate secret, like, specifically what they do.

Suzie: Yeah.

Mel: In case maybe they're judged or it's not what other guys do or. I mean, that could be part of it, too, is I don't think women think like that in the same way.

Suzie: I know it's a weird thing, but.

Mel: I think girls gaggle and chat and dissect stuff. So you're going to talk about sex?

Suzie: We talk about everything. I want to warn men right now. If you have had sex with a girl last night, she's already talked to five of friends.

Mel: Yeah.

Suzie: They've dissected every single part of your date. Every single part of your *****.

We have talked about it all,

and we have dissected about it. And we will know if you made her come and if she had a good time and if you're gonna see her again. We already know that stuff.

Mel: Yeah.

Suzie: And maybe men less than 24 hours later.

Mel: I don't know. Do they just not have time for this nonsense? I don't know.

Suzie: I don't know what it is. They just don't.

Mel: Like, do they just talk? I think men talk in more generic terms, though. You know, like when we've talked about this before as well. Like men will go out, like if, if my husband goes out with his friends and, you know, you know, some of my friends, he has a lot of male friends and he'll go out with them and they'll go out for hours.

They'll go to dinner, to bars, to sport, whatever the hell they're doing. And you're like, so how's so and so's wife? How's so and so? He's like, I don't know.

And they, they, I mean, the other day went out with his friend and they were in the bar.

Well, I think they went there at six and left at two. How many little,

you know, merry when he got back.

But they talked about nothing.

There is no information.

There is nothing. And if you want information, you have to say, by the way, ask this question. 1, 2, 3, 4. Because he will come back with nothing. Right? Whereas, like on Thursday, I'm going out with a girlfriend.

We'll talk about everything, everything. And I'll be updated on every single part of her life.

Suzie: Yes, as you should be.

Mel: And if it's a single girlfriend, then obviously sex, dating, whatever. If it's a married girlfriend, her children, her life, her happiness,

like everything in those six hours or seven hours, I will have all the info because I will have gone in with interest to know, and she'll have it from me.

But men don't do that. They talk about inane ****. Or maybe they talk about very generic subjects. So not like the inner workings of sex. They'll just say,

I ****** her. Yeah, that girl.

That girl's got his ****. Something like that.

I think so. I think our viewers should,

our community should correct us if we're wrong here.

Suzie: But I think, I think we're really right.

Mel: I think we're right.

Suzie: We're pretty much right.

Like the, the sexiest thing a man can do is tell me a nice story that happened with one of his friends. Give me the tea, give me the drama of your friends.

Like that's the sexiest, most fun thing to do is like, dissecting his friends,

a guy's friend's life with the guy. It's my favorite thing. It's, it's the most fun thing when, when I'm seeing a guy and I know his friends or I know his group or whatever, and he'll come hack and he'll be like, oh, my God.

You will not believe what Marcus did with his girlfriend Jessica.

Mel: Yeah.

Suzie: And I'm like, oh, my God, tell me everything. Like, I love that.

Mel: Yeah.

Suzie: I love being able to do that with the man I'm seeing because I'm like, I don't care about gossiping with my girlfriends as much. Like, it's way more fun to hear it from a man's perspective.

Mel: Yeah. Maybe because he's. Yeah. Because he doesn't do it all the time.

Suzie: I know. And he wants to do with me. That's exciting.

Mel: Yeah. Got it. Yeah.

Suzie: Okay. Well, we actually had a write in too,

and this has somewhat to do with what we're talking about today as just this guy.

He likes the competition. He likes the competition. So I'll read it to you and.

And you can take what you will of it.

Mel: Yeah.

Suzie: So he says,

I'm 45, single, and I matched with this woman on Hinge. She's total knockout, smart, funny,

great smile. And from the jump, I knew that she's the type who turns heads. And she does. I loved it.

When we met up, she casually mentioned some of the guys she's talking to. And honestly, I asked about them, grinned and loved hearing it.

Seeing her get noticed, watching her light up when a guy hits on her,

that's sexy as hell.

It didn't intimidate me. It fired me up.

He says, what I love. Knowing there's competition,

watching her flirt, and still being the guy she comes back to. That's a rush.

It makes you sharper, more confident, more fun. And yeah, when you play it right, it's worth every second.

So.

Mel: Well, that's the thrill of the chase, that, isn't it?

Suzie: It is.

Mel: You're just like,

you know this idea that the woman is the prize and you're the guy that's won the prize. And men are. I mean, the thing is, men are, for the most part, innately very competitive and indifferent.

Some men are very competitive about everything, like sport or arguments or anything they have to win.

But I think in general,

men are competitive. So kind of that makes sense. It's a little like cuckoldy, isn't it?

Suzie: I don't know, because I think it's like he's still. He wants to see that she's valuable and valuable like.

Like wants she's wanted by other men. Yeah,

I don't like, because for me,

I love when my man gets hit on.

Love it.

I'm the same. I'm. I agree with this guy fully. Like, I.

If I'm dating a guy and he doesn't get hit on at the bar.

Mel: I'm like. I find it funny. I'm just like.

Suzie: Well, I'm just like.

Mel: I think it's.

Suzie: Why.

Why wouldn't it be like,

that's a compliment. That's a compliment to me that I have a guy who other women want and I know that he's not gonna cheat on me or. Although I hope not.

Mel: That's true.

Suzie: But, like, the fact that, like, other women are seeing him as someone who is, like, valuable, hot, sexy, great to talk to, wants to hit on them.

I love. I love watching that.

Mel: Okay. Yeah, that. That. That makes sense. I mean, I don't think. I personally give it a huge amount of thought, but I find it quite funny.

Suzie: Yeah.

Mel: When I see it.

Suzie: You do?

Mel: Well, you see, I find it amusing.

Suzie: I mean, Max gets. Your husband gets hit on a lot. Quite a bit. But he's also gives off that vibe.

Mel: Gives off that. He's a massive personality.

Suzie: Yes.

Mel: And he's all about the chatty chat.

Suzie: Yes.

Mel: And.

Suzie: And I'm the same way.

Mel: Yeah, you're very similar, actually. And he. He just has a huge personality.

Suzie: Yeah.

Mel: And I know women love that. Yeah. But I find it funny. But I find it funny from a personal point of view. Like I said, if I'm standing right there, I'm standing right here.

Like, right here.

And it's. It's funny. It's funny to me. But,

yeah, I don't. I just don't. I don't really give it any thought. I'm not worried about it.

I never think about it.

Suzie: I think the same sexiest thing. I mean,

I think some women. And this is from other cultures, too, some women like when their man gets jealous, and some men like when their girl gets jealous. I think it's a bit of a toxic trait in relationship.

Mel: Obviously, it's not my thing.

Suzie: I think it's, like,

so sexy when a man does not get jealous and is so confident in knowing that, like, I'm his girl and he doesn't have anything to worry about.

Mel: I agree.

Suzie: It's just so sexy.

Mel: It never.

Suzie: It just shows your insecurity. If you're just like, I never getting.

Mel: Mad about something so stupid ever occurs to me. And him about me just never occurs to me. I just haven't got time for that. I've got time for jealousy. It's a waste of time.

It's totally ridiculous emotion.

Suzie: Yes.

Mel: It doesn't help.

Suzie: No.

Mel: And it's negative. And I never think. I never think about it. I just Don't. Yeah,

but.

And yeah, I guess this idea of competition,

I mean, it's an interesting concept. I get it. And I just think that because the way people are meeting,

it's like this game of. It's like a game and like, it's the thrill. And yeah. If this woman is so hot that all these men are after her because that's the way their apps are, they're all.

Then. But you've. You've basically won her or got her attention.

I guess that's appealing. I guess. Yeah. I mean, I'm not sure how positive that is.

I mean, in the end,

that's just.

Suzie: The reality of it.

Mel: Yeah. Right.

Suzie: This is the reality of the dating world. The modern dating world that we're in is just the fact that, like, literally everyone is in competition now.

Mel: Yes.

Suzie: If you live in a city, at least I don't know what it's like living in a rural area. On the apps, you only have so many people that you're dating. Right.

Mel: But like, you have to go into. You have to go to places. Right. I would think.

Suzie: But like, if you're in a huge city, like we are,

and you're dating, this is just the way it is. You're always gonna be out on competition, so you might as well have a little fun with it and you might as well try to beat the next one and like, step up your ******* game.

Give the bless. Best ******* you can ever give. You know, buy her flowers. Cause the other guy might not,

like, just. But step it up.

Mel: Yeah. I th. I think the. The one of the reasons there is so much competition is what you were just talking about is the fact that you're in Toronto, but you're talking to a guy from New York and a guy in London and a guy in whatever.

Whereas obviously before that wasn't possible.

Suzie: Totally.

Mel: You were talking to the people.

I mean, in your neighborhood or in your Whatever. Yeah. So now there is literally so much competition that,

you know, you could go.

You could be talking to one guy and then another guy turns up and he turns your head. And so I think that's probably part of the peel that you're like,

you still got her attention. And maybe the other way around. Yeah. Because it is so competitive because you can go on an apple and you can shop for people.

I mean, it isn't actually working, but that's a separate issue.

But you can. Can't you, like, you couldn't do that before. You couldn't see.

Suzie: You can shop for your perfect person. Yeah. And all the variety bullshit. But yeah.

Mel: And you can have 50 bajillion conversations at the same time that nobody knows you're having.

So whereas before you're going to a physical thing, you're meeting somebody,

you're dealing with that, then you have to go to another thing.

Suzie: Yeah.

Mel: You can sit on your arm, sit in your chair like this and talk to. I don't know.

Suzie: And I do. Exactly. And we do.

Mel: However many people. And so the competition is huge.

Suzie: Yeah.

Mel: I mean, it's not helping anybody.

Suzie: No.

Mel: But I think.

Suzie: I think you guys are in. And it is a game.

Mel: Like.

Suzie: Yeah, let's stop ******* banging around the bush about it. Like, dating is a ******* game nowadays. Like, you have to step it up. You have to try to be the best partner you can be.

Mel: Yeah.

Suzie: And there's so many people out there who hate being single. They want a relationship.

You know, some of their expectations are a little ridiculous for what they are looking for in my idea. But at the end of the day, like, if you are trying your hardest and you're open and you're honest and you're happy and you're.

And you're, you know, you're giving it your all,

then that's it.

That's all you need to do.

Mel: I think you solved it, Susan.

Suzie: I always do, Mel. We always do.

Mel: That's it. You've. What we'd say in England. You've nobbled it.

And the funny thing is to nobble means to,

you know, you've nobbled it, you've achieved, you've sussed it, you've worked it out. But a knob is also a *****. So it sounds dirty.

Nobbled it sounds dirty.

Suzie: Val.

Mel: It's not really the knob. Yes. But the. To nobble.

Suzie: Anyway, on that note, you learn something new every day.

Mel: Go and nobble your knob.

Suzie: I can't wait to knobble my knob a little later.

Mel: Anyway, I don't know why I said that, but that's quite funny, really, to think about.

Suzie: I love that. Well, if you guys.

If you guys have any ideas or if you want to talk to us about your competent.

If you want to talk to us about your competitive streak.

Mel: Yes.

Suzie: And your love for it or your hate for it. Or your love for the apps. Or your hate for the apps, you do it.

Mel: Yeah. Do you think feel yourself doing it?

Suzie: Exactly. Or are you a jealous person? And why is that? We want to hear from you.

Mel: We do.

Suzie: You guys can go to Share my Truth dot com, where you guys can send us an email or you can always dm us on our Instagram at Share My Truth Pot.

We can't wait to hear from you.

Mel: We can't.

Suzie: Love you.

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