Multi-Dating: Fun, Flirty, or a Red Flag?

Breaking down the latest juicy episode from Sharing My Truth podcast

Okay, besties, we need to talk! Mel and Suzie from Sharing My Truth just dropped another episode that has us all questioning our dating strategies, and honestly? We're here for the chaos. This week they tackled the burning question that's been keeping us up at 2 AM scrolling through dating apps: Is multi-dating the secret to finding love, or are we just collecting red flags like they're Pokémon cards?

The Great Multi-Dating Debate

Let's be real for a hot minute. We've all been there—you're talking to three different people on three different apps, trying to remember who likes hiking and who's obsessed with sourdough starters.

But here's where it gets spicy: When does keeping your options open cross the line into emotional unavailability?

The Case FOR Multi-Dating

Team Multi-Dating argues:

- It takes the pressure off each individual connection

- You're not putting all your eggs in one potentially cracked basket

- It helps you figure out what you actually want (apparently not another hiking enthusiast)

- It's efficient! Why waste time on serial dating when you can parallel process your love life?

Real talk: There's something liberating about not obsessing over whether Brad from Bumble opened your message. When you've got options, you're less likely to spiral into "he's probably just busy" territory while he's actually just not that into you.

The Case AGAINST Multi-Dating

Team Exclusive-From-Day-One counters with:

- It's impossible to form genuine connections when you're spreading yourself thinner than your patience during Mercury retrograde

- Someone's bound to catch feelings, and then it gets messy

- The mental energy required to juggle multiple dating scenarios could power a small city

- Are we treating potential partners like items on a restaurant menu?

The uncomfortable truth: Sometimes multi-dating becomes a way to avoid vulnerability. It's easier to keep things surface-level when you know you've got backup plans.

The Red Flags to Watch For

Whether you're team multi-date or team one-at-a-time, here are the warning signs that your dating strategy might need a reality check:

• You can't remember basic details about anyone

  
  

• You're using multi-dating to avoid difficult conversations

• You feel overwhelmed and emotionally drained (Dating should be fun, not feel like a part-time job)

• You're being dishonest about your situation (Transparency is sexy; manipulation is not)

• You're comparing everyone to everyone else. (People aren't products to be ranked.)

The Plot Twist: It's About Intention

Here's what Mel and Suzie really nailed in this episode—it's not about how many people you're dating; it's about why you're doing it and how you're handling it.

Multi-dating with intention and honesty? That can be a healthy exploration phase. Multi-dating because you're afraid of commitment or using people as ego boosts? That's where we venture into red flag territory.

The Golden Rules of Multi-Dating

If you're going to play the field, at least play it right:

1. Be honest (at appropriate times; you don't need to announce your roster on the first date)

2. Respect everyone's time and feelings.

3. Check in with yourself regularly**- are you enjoying this or just avoiding something?

4. Have an exit strategy- at some point, you'll need to focus on one person

5. **Practice safe everything**- emotionally, physically, mentally

The Bottom Line

Look, there's no universal dating playbook (despite what your coupled friends keep insisting). Some people thrive in the multi-dating ecosystem, building connections and learning about themselves. Others need to focus their energy on one person at a time to really see if there's potential.

The real red flag isn't multi-dating itself; it's doing it without self-awareness, respect for others, or clear communication about your intentions.

So what's the verdict? Multi-dating can be fun and flirty when done with intention and honesty. But when it becomes a way to avoid real intimacy or treat people like they're disposable.

What's your take? Are you team multi-date or team exclusive focus? Let us know your thoughts and maybe share your most chaotic multi-dating story while you're at it. We promise not to judge.

Listen to the full episode of Sharing My Truth for more unfiltered takes on modern dating dilemmas. Trust us, Mel and Suzie don't hold back!